Facing adversaries

Adversary is anyone who gets in your way, impedes your progress, or stops you from reaching your goals. Recognize the types to be able to apply the appropriate strategy. Inadvertent – people who are incompetent and/or unaware of their impact on others. Insecure – these bullies have psychological issues of their own and need to put others down to feel good about themselves. Revenge motivated – these are out to damage you because they feel you have wronged them for real or imagined. Politically motivated – these will lie, backstab, and deceive for they see you as an obstacle who needs to be removed. Concentrate your efforts on the adversaries who count. Identify the adversary’s intention, seek the reasons behind your adversary’s behavior. Focus only on those who are deliberately attacking you for advancing their personal interest or being psychologically flawed. Plan your counter-move, collect facts and evidence for later use. Carefully consider the right time to act. Acknnowledge that today's enemy could be tomorrows friend (and vise versa).

How would you come out? Share your way

Similar situations

Letting an alliance lapse

Discussing personal beliefs at work

Being blamed

Making a pre-deal



Drinking with the buddies

Working with a "shark"

Running a favor bank

Reprimanding a colleague

Dropping a hint

Confusing the other

Being left out

Competing internally

Laughing at someone's expense

Finding solution behind the bosses

Passing the buck

Involving HR

Working with a slander monger

Questioning naively

Being passed over for a promotion

Stabbing in the back

Resisting change

Setting up to fail


Listening music or radio at work

Paying back in spades

Acting on emotions

Influencing others


Getting hostile questions

Clashing over resources

Reporting misconduct

Cooperating or not

Losing a battle

Asking for help

Experiencing prejudice

Being disrespected

Clashing values

Overcoming wardrobe malfunction

Keeping your secrets

Handling difficult conversation

Drinking on the job

Defusing aggression

Feeling unconfortable at work

Using humor at work

Dealing with uncertainty

Being teased by a colleague

Making small talk at work

Defusing a manipulator

Twisting the knife

Mastering workplace competition

Surviving blame firestorm

Winning an argument

Being betrayed

Enjoying work

Being drained from work

Getting even

Socializing with colleagues

Being replaced by younger employee

Moving finish line

Meeting new colleagues

Flirting at work

Saying sorry

Working with a disgruntled

Not being listened to

Conflicting coworker

F*cking up

Suffering office insult

Looking worried

Co-worker stealing sale

Making peace

Dealing with workplace bullshit


Working alone


Being elected as employee representative

Doing favors

Managing time

Presenting results

Breaking up

Rivals being around

Meaning behind words

Flagging up

Thinking in group

Position opening up

Getting a rival while absent

Enjoying break

Preparing to fight

Supporting each other

Introducing a new colleague

Work tech betraying privacy

Supporting the bullied

Adapting culturally


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